Growing up I was always socially awkward. Heck, even now I have episodes where I feel my old anxiousness return and I have to remind myself how far I’ve come. Like any other struggle it’s a battle I find myself fighting everyday. Some days I want to hide and avoid social interactions all together but I think we both know that is no way to live. In choosing to live I developed the following list to help myself and others with improving their social lives and break out of their proverbial shells.
Watch Today’s Video on Overcoming Social Awkwardness:
The Best Social Tip for Socially Awkward People
As we’ve established, I definitely know what you’re going through and the best tip I can give you is to tell you to be up front about your situation. What I mean is, be open about the fact that you are socially awkward. It allows others to utilize empathy, it provides a serious conversation starter and lastly it removes a lot of the actual awkwardness due to the spot light on the elephant in the room.
Normal people are empathetic by nature and they want to see you succeed, even more so they want to HELP you succeed! The number of self-help books and YouTube guru’s is astronomical and frankly they all come from a place core in the human brain that says, “I have beaten a thing, now let me show others how to beat that same thing!” Think how when you figure out how to beat a certain boss in a video game and run to tell your friends that are struggling on that same boss how you did it. Sure, you want the bragging rights but more importantly you want to help a fellow human stop struggling.
My point in all this is to say, Don’t be afraid to ask for help. In a way this exercise is secretly just another way to get you talking and acting social.
How To Ask Others For Help Socially
The concept of asking for help is easy but the act is the hard part. If you are like me when you get nervous you talk faster, you start sweating, you may even shake a little bit. All of this normal. My suggestion to combat these reactions is to fail. Through failure you will ultimately succeed. Essentially, you have to go out and practice talking to strangers. Pick easy topics like asking for the time or asking a fellow nerd where they got that cool shirt.
Today Pokemon Go is an easy topic to break the ice with. I myself have met dozens of people this way and while at times it was awkward, it worked! Don’t be afraid, the more you do this the more comfortable you will be. In time the conversations will be easy and before you know it you will be ready to ask people what you really want to. Small talk is the little brother of conversation. Start with small talk and proper convos will follow.
The final Tip I will leave you with is really just encouragement. You absolutely can do this. It may seem hard but with determination and belief in yourself you can do anything. Awkwardness doesn’t feel like a choice but is and when you embrace it for what is, this when you will be set free from the supposed trappings of the awkward life style. Good luck!